There’s a difference between standing there holding up your boombox and steppin up!
We’ve all seen it, or heard it at one point or another
“I’m ready when you are”
“I’ll wait for you until you’re ready”
“I’m not going anywhere”
Sometimes accompanied by a GIF of John Cusack holding up his boombox from Say Anything…
Even the tagline “To know Lloyd Dobler is to love him. Diane Court is about to get to know Lloyd Dobler.” says all there is to say about it.
He’s the guy you love, and he rocks up with his boombox and that’s all there is to it (there’s more, but I haven’t seen it in a long time)
You just KNOW that Lloyd Dobler is the guy!
The one you wanna be with, who’ll make life easier, better, more fun, interesting.
It’s a typical 80s RomCom.
Who, or what is holding up a boombox for you right now?
Who or what is the thing that you’ll love once you get to know it?
A person? A place? A situation? A lifestyle?
Here’s the thing; there are lots of things, situations, people, etc holding up their boomboxes.
We’re surrounded by them – “Just look at me, get to know me, and you’ll love me. I’m right here, waiting for you”
Our options are limitless, our opportunities boundless.
And maybe we do glance under the hood, see what’s there, maybe we can fall in love with it. The idea, the excitement, it’s a hint of something that we’ve been craving deep down – freedom, excitement, security, something new.
Maybe, just maybe, we see that, we want it, and we’re ready to take the step, have them put the boombox down, stop playing for our attention.
But something stops us.
Gives pause, causes us to faulter on the next step.
Am I ready for this?
Is this REALLY what I want?
Is this another side step rather than actual progress?
Could this really be a step backwards?
Old patterns resurfacing in a new light?
Maybe there are all the signs that this could be the next great thing, but when you get close, it feels off somehow.
There’s a pit in your stomach
A tension in your chest
a feeling of unease that you just can’t explain, yet it’s there, holding you back.
Keeping you away from fully embracing what’s in front of you.
This shiny new thing, full of promise with its boombox blaring.
No matter how hard and fast you want to run towards it, you can’t, there’s just this invisible forcefield keeping you away – the doubt that it’s even what you really want despite all the information telling you that it is.
On paper it’s perfect.
The sales guys did a great job of convincing you that it’s JUST what you want.
You’re not ready
You’re not good enough for that just yet
You need to step up if you want a piece of that
Maybe you’ve changed
Maybe, just maybe, the resistance you’re feeling is your self preservation kicking in, because THIS ISN’T RIGHT FOR YOU!
Fuck you not being right for it.
You know, deep down, that this thing that you’ve got in front of you, all big and shiny and boombox weilding, so tempting, so “different” is actually not that different from what you’ve walked away from before.
It’s just packaged differently.
It’s the same thing offering itself up in a different way.
And for once, maybe even the first time, you need to realise that it’s not YOU that needs to step up this time.
It’s what’s on offer.
As great, and tempting as it is, it’s just not right… not for you, not right now. And possibly not ever.
As much as that might suck to accept.
But that’s just how it is.
So what are you going to do?
Keep looking at that thing in front of you and wondering how you can fit to it, or if you even can?
Or are you going to stop trying to fit into things that aren’t right for you, and FINALLY accept that it’s time to step up, and allow life to step up for you?
I get it. We’ve all been there, so let’s sort this shit out
It sucks, right?
That shitty low feeling where you just feel down, deflated, pissed off with the world for no reason, and you’ve just had enough.
You’re not particularly angry, or sad, or maybe you are, maybe you’re just feeling “ugh!” (yes, that’s a real feeling) that kinda nothingness where you know something’s up, but you’re not quite sure what.
Well, how about we get right in there and sort that shit out?
This is my personal 5-Step Reset that I go through to get me from Feelin’ Like Shit to Rockin’ It!
I’m not saying it’ll be fun n easy, there’s no magic cure, but this works, every time.
I come back to this all the time, and I’ve shared it with my closest friends when they’re having a shitty day (or a week, or month, or however long) and it works for them too…
So how about it, are you done feelin’ like shit? Are you ready? Let’s go
Drop your details into the form, and I’m gonna send you over a quick audio that talks you through the 5 steps I take, that are going to help you go from
Feelin’ Like Shit to Rockin’ It!