I’ve been to London a grand total of 4 times.
The first I was very young and went on a coach trip to see Grease with Shane Richie as Danny Zuko, I loved it, I grew up watching Grease thanks to my Mum, so it was great fun to see it on the stage – I still have the bright pink hat and the program in my box of goodies.
The second time I went was 2011, it was March, just after my birthday and I’d just found out I was a few weeks pregnant with my youngest and spent the week stomping around art galleries. I got home and nearly miscarried, blamed London for it because it was busy and chaotic and I hated it – introvert alert! PLUS, I had no idea where I was. I don’t like that at all.
I’ve avoided London since
Until this year…
I went for a couple of nights back in April, stayed with a friend who zoomed around London at London pace, kept me (THANKFULLY) away from the underground at rush hour, and didn’t take me to enough coffee shops. It was a decent few days but I was still disoriented and the pace in which we rushed from a to b didn’t give me a chance to tune into anything – not good for my brain. I left London still thinking it was shit.
Then there was an event I wanted to go to, but was dubious BECAUSE it was was in London and “I hate London!”
A friend, who lives here, but knows London well, offered to come with me and we’d make a few days of it rather than rushing around.
LONDON is a whole new place for me now!
It’s still chaotic, busy and stressful.
I still spent two days walking around observing people and thinking “wow, there’s no wonder they all look so miserable” but I went at a slower pace, I got my bearings, I figured out that if I get on the Central Line and get off at Tottenham Court Road and switch to the Northern Line I will end up in Camden.
I slowed down.
I got my bearings
I actually started to understand the crazy
and then I started to ENJOY London.
Then I had a proud moment of getting my friend (the one who knows London) off the wrong train on our way back to the hotel cos yeah, “I know London now!” hahaha – I was joking, and we had a good laugh about it, but I was still impressed with myself. It’s the little things, right?!
So here are the lessons that we can relate to life/biz…
There are ALWAYS a million routes, ideas, things that people reckon we should do, or ways we should go.
And there are a bunch of people out there that have been doing it longer than us, know it better than us and just kinda flow through life and problems like Londoners do the Underground.
BUT WE’RE NOT THEM!
We’re us… we have our own things, our own places to go, our own ideas of which way to go, and above all that, our own pace to do things.
Even if you know they have the right way to get from A-B, you might need to take longer to get your bearings and figure out where the hell you are before you can switch to the other line. Just for your own sanity, never mind the end results.
Some of us actually like to look around on the way. “stop and smell the roses” or whatever… it doesn’t detract from the results.
There’s also the other lesson…
“Hyde Park Corner is the closest Tube station to the event” a very true point, however, if I stay on Central Line I’ll get to Marble Arch and that gets me to near enough the same place, and I don’t have to mess about switching trains. Just walk a little further
JUST because someone tells you the nearest place to go, you are allowed to ignore that and figure out your own way!
They can get you nearby, with all the best intentions, but when you step back and take a look, you might even find an easier way – something I LOVE to do and have spent years doing, both at work and in my life.
The only thing I haven’t yet found an easier way for is getting the kids to help with the housework – if you have any ideas, hit reply, I’d love to know!
On that note…
What do you hate because it’s stressful and chaotic?
Is it a case of slowing down, or just taking a broader look and finding your own way?
Maybe, just maybe, you could do with a friend by your side who can work closer to your pace to get you where you need to be?
Pay attention, notice the rift, then take the appropriate action
I get it. We’ve all been there, so let’s sort this shit out
It sucks, right?
That shitty low feeling where you just feel down, deflated, pissed off with the world for no reason, and you’ve just had enough.
You’re not particularly angry, or sad, or maybe you are, maybe you’re just feeling “ugh!” (yes, that’s a real feeling) that kinda nothingness where you know something’s up, but you’re not quite sure what.
Well, how about we get right in there and sort that shit out?
This is my personal 5-Step Reset that I go through to get me from Feelin’ Like Shit to Rockin’ It!
I’m not saying it’ll be fun n easy, there’s no magic cure, but this works, every time.
I come back to this all the time, and I’ve shared it with my closest friends when they’re having a shitty day (or a week, or month, or however long) and it works for them too…
So how about it, are you done feelin’ like shit? Are you ready? Let’s go
Drop your details into the form, and I’m gonna send you over a quick audio that talks you through the 5 steps I take, that are going to help you go from
Feelin’ Like Shit to Rockin’ It!