- Envy can teach/show you what you want
- Envy can remind you of the person you thought you could be before you learned the limitations that society teaches you.
- Envy shows you the direction you should go
Build a roadmap to get you where you want to be.
Those things you’re envious of? Set them as goals.
Envious that your friend (or some random Facebook acquaintance, or Instagram celeb) has just travelled the world, and spends their time sipping cocktails and working from their laptop on the beach?
Write it out as a goal, then work out how to get there.
What is it you want?
What do you need to get there?
What is the first thing you need to do?
What can you do right now?
(A great book to help you break down those crazy goals, is The One Thing, by Gary Keller)
It may not be what you think
Maybe you notice a pang of jealousy over a friend travelling the world, but you know that’s not on the cards for you because of other commitments (jobs, kids, family etc) … this doesn’t mean you can’t have it. Perhaps it’s an extended holiday, a new place to visit, a new experience. For now, it could be as simple as getting out of the house a little more and enjoying some fresh air.
Jealous of your friends bold new look? It doesn’t mean you have to go out there and recreate what they have. Perhaps it’s just a case of showing up as you are, being unapologetically yourself and not hiding away from the world anymore.
Are you jealous of the success someone is having with their online business when they make it look so effortless? Take a closer look at what they do. Learn their process (if it’s someone you’re already personally connected to a simple ‘how do you do it?’ chat can work) but most importantly, realise that what you see isn’t always what you expect.
Overnight success in the online world can takes years of long hours and hard work.
Envy is a powerful emotion when harnessed and used the right way.
“If you want something you have never had, you must be willing to do something you have never done.”
Envy vs. Jealousy
Envy and jealousy are usually used synonymously, but I don’t think they should be. Yes, they’re similar, but I feel there’s an ever so slight difference that should be noted
- a feeling of discontent or covetousness with regard to another’s advantages, success, possessions, etc. (dictionary.com)
- jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another’s success or advantage itself. (dictionary.com)
Envy is a discontented feeling that people have within themselves. It’s uncomfortable for them to know the situation they’re in, but has very little to do with the other person. Envy is showing a lack from your own life. This is what allows you to grow through the situation, by turning envy into a positive.
Jealousy on the other hand is a negative feeling towards the other person involved. It’s a resentment of them based on what they’ve achieved with a disregard to the effort and work they’ve put into achieving it. This is low energy, where you take your own situation/circumstance and project an idea of ‘unfairness’ on those who live differently from you. It’s definitely not a good way to live.